My teen boys are blind to rape culture
"'Oh boy,” my son said, rolling his eyes. “Not rape culture again.”
We were sitting around the dinner table talking about the news. As soon as I mentioned the Stanford sexual assault case, my sons looked at each other. They knew what was coming. They’ve been listening to me talk about consent, misogyny and rape culture since they were tweens. They listened to me then, but they are 16 and 18 now and they roll their eyes and argue when I talk to them about sexism and misogyny.
“There’s no such thing as rape culture,” my other son said. “You say everything is about rape culture or sexism.”
I never imagined I would raise boys who would become men like these. Men who deny rape culture, or who turn a blind eye to sexism. Men who tell me I’m being too sensitive or that I don’t understand what teenage boys are like. “You don’t speak out about this stuff, mom,” they tell me with a sigh. “It’s just not what teenagers do.'"
This harridan has been cruelly screeching at her poor boys for most of a decade about her nonexistent dystopian rape fantasy. How pathetic. I grew up with a fundamentalist mother, so I have a pretty good idea what these kids are going through. For my family everything was sin, and salvation came through prostrate acceptance of the church's antiquated moral dogma, although the Bible did not agree, that was the requirement. I went along to survive, but walked away, quickly once adult.
"My sons are right about that much. Teenage boys, by and large, don’t speak out about slut-shaming or rape culture. They don’t call each other out when they make sexist jokes or objectify women. It’s too uncomfortable to separate themselves from the pack so they continue to at least dip their toes into toxic masculinity. In their discomfort with action, they remain passive, and their passivity perpetuates the same broken system that sentenced Brock Turner to only six months in jail."
These boys will validly not respect their mentally ill mother as adults. They may love her, and wish the best for her, but there will never be respect should she hold to these illogically, ugly, sexist beliefs. These boys are not perpetuating any system, and certainly not anything with which Brock Turner is involved. Turner was a rich spoiled brat whose entitlement got the best of him. He committed a crime and should have been punished, but felt only the lightest lash.
To the extent we have any rape culture it is not a male rape culture, this problem swings both ways, and increasingly it is women in the dock.
Female teacher rapes 5
Teacher, 27, charged with rape after ‘sex with two 16-year-old male students’
These stories are endless, and the results of nearly all of them look identical to the Brock Turner case, with little or no punishment. Men, on the other hand, are commonly punished harshly, Brock Turner is an anomaly.
This woman has no understanding of the real lay of the land. She is willing to pillory her own children, convicting them of a crime they have not committed. Her victim status is so powerful in her mind it usurps all else. She has allowed it to destroy her reason, and ultimately her family. Perhaps the children should turn this around on her. After all she is one of the great gang of women pedophiles who are constantly raping young underaged men, and women. And, yes, this is an epic pandemic of female teachers raping students.
The big list: Female teachers with students
She is not ready for this little reality check, and so they should bring it full bore. Gentlemen lance this carbuncle, it is your civic duty to do so, she is your mother, you have responsibility to the community.
And where is the father in the lives of these young boys? Grow a pair, intervene, engage in your parental role.
"My sons are good boys, just like thousands of other good boys in America. They understand consent and they won’t rape an unconscious woman behind a dumpster. But they aren’t allies in the fight against rape culture because they refuse to acknowledge their own culpability when they call a girl a slut or a whore, laugh at a sexist joke or remain silent when their friends talk about their own questionable sexual behavior.
And in this broken system, anyone who isn’t with us is against us. Particularly, and especially, men. Even my own sons — even yours. It’s not enough to teach our sons about consent; we have to encourage them to have the courage to speak out against rape culture, too."
You need therapy.
Progressivism became religion so slowly I almost missed it but living with a fundamentalist mother made missing it impossible.