Men don't fancy clever women...unless they're VERY attractive!
So that's how they explain Maddogswif!!!
I vivisect this myth, and harpoon feminists, below.
The research underpinning what men, and what women want in relationships has already been done. It is constantly being redone, but the interpretations are lacking. To understand these relationships:
What Women Want--What Men Want: Why the Sexes Still See Love and Commitment So Differently by John Marshall Townsend
Please read this book, and if you have children of dating age, please have them read this book, it will save them a ton of grief. But back to our intrepid Polaks and Polskas In Warsawa.
"Research suggests that when it comes to choosing a romantic partner, men are actively turned off by intelligence – and can only overcome this massive obstacle if they find the woman particularly attractive."
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"Men put more of a premium on physical appearance and being relatively clever helped very attractive women stand out from the crowd.
However, the researchers found that male daters tended to have a ‘line in the sand’ after which intelligence is seen as an ‘economic bad’ – meaning that having less of something is better than having extra.
In other words, beyond a certain point, the cleverer a woman becomes, the better looking she has to be to be worth pursuing."
No, or maybe, sorta. Both men and women want a number of thing within the mating relationship, but what men want is simple. What women want is complicated.
When boiled down, men want physical beauty, youth, and to a lesser extent personal compatibility, intelligence, sociability, and similar traits. Physical beauty, and youth trump the others hands down. Men also have a few things they do not want, but will accept if the women is sufficiently attractive, in the locker room this is commonly called the BS Factor. Meaning how much BS the man is willing to put up with compared to the woman's youth, and beauty. A woman who is a 10, using the tried and true 10 point rating scale, can get away with lots of BS Factor, but a 6 cannot. While men like, and value intelligence, it can be so great as to become a BS Factor. This is because highly intelligent people in general are more demanding. Men have a keen understanding of their social/sexual value in the mating game.
The Warsaw School of Economics researchers are simply wrong when they state "men are actively turned off by [female] intelligence – and can only overcome this massive obstacle if they find the woman particularly attractive."
It is more valuable to view this as men wanting balance between the factors they view as positive, youth, and beauty, and the ones which if out of balance they consider negatives, like intelligence, and sociability.
If the Warsaw School of Economics researchers want to waste more time they can research whether men find sociability to be similar, with a similar ". . . line in the sand after which [sociability] is seen as an 'economic bad' . . ." I will cut to the chase and answer this researcher perplexing question - emphatically, yes! Sociability is good, excessive sociability is not, it becomes a significant BS Factor.
Many relationships experts, are not, for example: "Relationships expert Pauline Brown said: ‘This study fits in with what I’m observing and hearing: Clever women – graduates – who feel they have to dumb themselves down and hide their brains to be attractive to men.’
The Glasgow-based counsellor added: ‘A clever woman may make a man feel insecure; he might question whether he can keep her interested because intelligence implies broad horizons, high expectations and a natural curiosity.'"
Pauline really doesn't get it. The women complaining they have to dumb themselves down, do not. What they need to do is realize that men, and women have different criteria for choosing a mate. Women are incompetent in this skill, or perhaps incapable. Feminism is the root of this incompetence, as it has confused young women as to what are important traits in the mating game. Wishing men wanted different traits is not going to change anything. But still the feminists teach women to wish. Sigh! Highly intelligent, highly educated, high achieving women for unknown reason think that men will be attracted to them in the same way they are attracted to highly intelligent, clever, successful, high achieving men. They are not, unless the women are highly attractive.
Pauline's ego puffing about clever women making men feel insecure is the usual piffle. Men who have lower intelligence than the women they are dating know for a fact that those women are not marriage material, the women won't allow it, outside of arranged marriages. These men find little interest in being constantly "mean girled" by their dates for being less intelligent. There are many reasonably attractive young women who are of lower intelligence than the man, and who will be happy to marry him, no "mean girl" crap involved.
What is going on is a mismatch. These high/high/high women are older, since education, and career building takes time, and are commonly less attractive, men who are attractive to these women are not interested in them, as they can find younger, highly attractive women. So, these women blame this lack of attraction on male insecurity, or that they are too intelligent, or too successful, or . . .
It is none of those things, it is they are to old, and not attractive enough. Remember men play with the entire female group of younger, attractive women, things like earrings, status, intelligence matter much less. Women play for a highly limited group of men who are more intelligent, more successful, more ambitious, and higher earning than the woman. Women drastically limit their options, and then complain about there not being enough men. The women are failures at playing the mating game, it has nothing to do with men. Feminism has created this monster, and only the death of this antiquated form of feminism can resolve the problem.
Before I sign off, perhaps I should outline what women want: Socioeconomic status, family status, education status, earning or earnings potential, ambitious, lesser traits are: attractiveness, considerateness, kindness, fondness for kids, understanding, and likablilty.
The first video accurately, and humorously outlines what men want, and at the end what women want. The second is one I just saw, but the chick seems to get it, notice her scale: hot vs income: