Words of advice from a divorced harridan?

This husband asked Mumsnet how to revive his dwindling sex life

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"One desperate husband asked Mumsnet for advice after he and his wife went from having sex twice a week to just once every six months after starting a family.

But some women were less than sympathetic towards the new father, who asked the mothers' forum how to broach the subject with his wife, with one telling him: 'You're not owed sex just because you want it.'"

Women need to take seriously their husbands need for intimacy, and sex. The consequences are existential to the marriage.

"Honeylulu agreed the man was getting a 'hard time', adding that 'sex is the glue that binds a relationship together. 

'That intimacy is a form of communication that will not (or should not) be present in any other relationships you have.'"

I long ago decided that if my wife asked for sex, I would always say yes. Ok, maybe not if my leg were off, but normally the answer needs to be yes. She agrees. The results are we have a good relationship, and sex is never an issue.

Much of the complaints from the women here are exercises in mentalism. Men should "just know" what women want. Get over yourself. We don't, and have no way to figure you out. Never forget, the only people who know less about what women want then men are women. 

Many women once they have a child seem to think their only task from this day forward is child rearing. This is a trap. Most of these women if this is allowed to continue will become all but incapable of functioning in society once their child leaves the home. The mother's only duty now gone, she becomes wacky as the day is long. The neighbor lady is one such.

The husband here needs to take control and lay down some essential "house rules." And yes, if the wife  has some issues with housework, or other things she, and he need to hash these out. But no relationship can be healthy when one spouse needs sex a few times per week, and the other withholds it to a few times per year. This should be something a couple can do without outside counselors, but if not, perhaps they could be helpful, I have no idea. My experience with the psych community was mostly from my work as a trial lawyer litigating medical and psychological issues, and it left me unimpressed.