How to ask out a stranger without seeming like a creep I liked dating! I like marriage more. More below. Back in the Pleistocene when I was still dating, I had a couple of rules I tended to follow in asking women out. First, no fishing from the company dock. I did it on occasion, and always wished I hadn't. Second, don't ask out people you have no connection to/strangers. I broke this one much more often, and often made it work, but only because I had, and still have a knack for being able to strike up a conversation, and turn it into a relationship on the spot.
This only worked placed like the beach, a park, or a coffee shop where I could start a conversation, let it go, later come back to it, and finally after an hour or two ask the woman out for something relaxed, and innocuous like coffee. It worked, but nothing ever came from any of these dates. I don't remember any of the women becoming long term dating interests. I think the problem was I would purely going for looks, and the personality would not match up with the looks, and I couldn't maintain interest over more than a few dates. But who knows it was long ago and far away. I admit that I enjoyed doing this very much. There was something gratifying about the spontaneity, and I only did this if I was not dating, so it often created something to do when the minute before there had not been. The other problem I think I had was after dating for a while, I really enjoyed the opportunity to not date for a while. These dates may have interfered with that, and if so, I would have likely sabotaged them. This is likely one of the key reasons I was ready for a more serious relationship after returning from Mexico in 1982. In Mexico, I did not date, and I did not want to date, I really enjoyed the freedom. I did exactly what I wanted. Before that I had been in a relationship for about a year with a beautiful, slender, but a bit dark and morose young woman. Mexico was exactly the opposite, bright, outgoing, and filled with lively people. By the time I returned to the US, I was ready for a relationship. I dated a bit all one offs, but when I met my now wife, I was comfortable that she would be a good match. That happened quite soon, mostly because her personality is so similar to one of my brothers. That made being with her comfortable. I knew what she would do, and why. He and I had been good with each other because our skills and traits seldom overlapped, and I found that she and I were quite similar, our skills, and traits seldom overlap. If you are dating, good luck, have fun, and relax, it's way more fun if you relax. And never forget there are about 3.5 million women/men your age, I think you can probably find one, really.
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